Monday, August 22, 2011

The Greatest Law

Law of Attraction...we have all heard it before, but what does it mean? I guess on its most simplistic level its 'like attracts like'

Everything that's coming into our lives we are attracting into our lives. And its attracted by the power of the images we create and holding in our minds. It's what we are thinking... Whatever is going on in our minds we are attracting to us

                      "Every thought of yours is a real thing - a force"
                                  Prentice Mulford (1834 - 1891)

"The simplest way for me to look at the Law of Attraction is if I think of myself as a magnet, and I know that a magnet will attract to it."
                                              John Assaraf

It is the law that determines determines the complete order in the universe, every moment of our lives, and every single thing we experience in our life. It doesn't matter who we are or where we are, the law of attraction is forming our entire life experience, and this powerful law is doing this through our thoughts. We call the law of attraction into action and do it through our thoughts.

The law of attraction is a law of nature. It is as impartial as the law of gravity. If you jump off a building the law of gravity doesn't consider if you are a good or bad person, it simply follows its law and you will hit the ground. Likewise with the law of attraction. These laws are principles. Principles generate the same result each and every time, no matter where, when, or who uses them. Principles work when you work them. Principles don't wear out, rust out, or give out. They last forever. They are timeless and tireless. Principles cannot be overused. Check out the Principles Blog Post .

We are the most powerful magnet in the universe! We contain a magnetic power within us that is more powerful than anything in this world, and this magnetic power is emitted through our thoughts.

The law of attraction says 'like attracts like', and so as you think a thought, you are also attracting 'like' thoughts to you. Think about it for a second, have you ever started to think about something you were not happy about, and the more you thought about it the worse it seemed? That's because as you think one sustained thought (continuously thinking & picturing an image in your mind), the law of attraction immediately brings more 'like' thoughts to you. In this case you have gotten more unhappy 'like' thoughts come to you that makes the situation feel its getting worse. The more you think about it, the more upset you get.

We have all experienced attracting 'like' thoughts when we've listened to a song, then found that we couldn't get that song out of our head (SWAGGER JAGGER!) The song just kept playing over and over in our minds. The law being that even though you we may not have realised it, we gave our full attention and focus of thought to it. As we did that, we were powerfully attracting more 'like' thoughts of that song, and so the law of attraction moved into action and delivered more thoughts of that song, over and over again.

Your life right now is a reflection of your past thoughts. That includes all good things, and all the things you consider not so good. Since you attract to you what you think about most, it is easy to see what your dominant thoughts have been on every subject of your life, because that is what you have experienced. However we no can now use this law of attraction to shape our lives from this point on and focus only what we want to have.

Whether that be the perfect job, more money, the perfect relationship or perfect health if you can think about what it is you want in your mind, and make that your dominant thought, you will bring it into you life.

Our job is to hold on to the thoughts of what we want, make it absolutely clear in our minds what we want, and from that we start to invoke one of the greatest laws, the law of attraction. You become what you think about most, but you also attract what you think about most.

Sunday, August 21, 2011

Exploring Leadership / Can we lead also?

Exploring Leadership has always interested me, and I want to do this through explaining 3 popular ways that people define leadership.

1. Leadership means being the dominant individual in a group
2. Leadership means getting things done through people
3. Leadership means challenging the status Quo, promoting a better way
For many, leadership means doing all three of these things but there are subtle and important differences. Exploring these differences is essential for understanding leadership and enabling us to define its role and not just using the term "leadership" without knowledge of its importance within society and even more interestingly within sport.

Leadership means being the dominant individual in a group

Going back in time and with cases today, with primitive tribes and higher animal species the dominant individual was the leader. Being the leader simply meant having the power to attain and hold the top position for a reasonable length of time. However, contrary to definition 2, you could be the leader without getting anything done through others. A leader was the person in charge even if the group was in a stable state where people went about their business as normal. As long as group members or team members obeyed the leader's rules, then the leader did not even need to be actively involved in there lives and movements, let alone get anything done through them. You could also be the leader in such a group without promoting a better way as suggested by definition 3. If you didn't need to be voted into power, why have the need to have a platform to change? You simply seized power. Yes the reality is such leaders may have led groups successfully in battle and built great monuments with them, but is it possible to be a leader without achieving anything through a group effort. Of course it is! The meaning of leadership, according to this definition, is to simply be at the top of the pile

Leadership means getting things done through people

Great leaders throughout history have led their groups to momentous achievements, but the idea that leadership should be defined as getting things done through people has developed most fully in both modern elite sport & business, which is all about achieving results. As the importance of achieving results has grown and become more complex, the leadership challenge has grown from simply issuing orders to a "few hands" to the subtle co-ordination of highly skilled,  knowledged workers to build sophisticated machines that put men on the moon. In essence as society began to change the word management and what responsibilities were attached to this word and began moulding it into this more relevant word leadership. First, we pushed leadership into a corner by suggesting that you needed to be an inspiring cheerleader to be a leader, leaving no room for quiet or simply factual leadership. Secondly, by attaching leadership to getting things done through a team, we associated leadership with being in charge of people and therefore ruling out positionless leadership. These two differences are separated into two terms of formal & informal ( leadership without the power basis of formal leadership). In either case, you need to have the personal presence, organisational skills and motivation to take charge to be a leader, and ultimately get jobs done through people.

Leadership means challenging the status Quo, promoting a better way.

We have always felt that leaders have the courage to stand up and be counted. They go against the grain, often at great risk, to call for change. We only need to look at Martin Luther King Jr, his leadership rested not such on his ability to speak with power and conviction in his voice but more so because he marched and spoke against injustice. He challenged the status quo and promoted a better world and people could not help but follow the path to something more promising or better. This is what made him a leader. A captain of a elite sports team more often than not has to challenge the status quo mid-game, and change the actions of his/her team because they believe in a better way to promote a better way to win if the other way isn't working. A leader will always have accountability for there decisions and this is what gets other people inspired to follow. People put there trust in people that trust themselves.

However in exploring these points & definitions, if you think through what it means to challenge the status quo or advocate change, there is no necessary implication that you have to be in charge of the people you are trying to influence. The bottom line is that this 3rd definition gives us a way to break the stranglehold of the previous two definitions.

Leadership reinvented for the 21st Century

If we cast aside the first 2 definitions the what is left is leadership means nothing more than promoting a better way. We then need to say leadership does not entail being controlling, that leaders can be as inspiring as they need to be, good at coaching, developing and empowering people.
A critical fact is that the power on which leadership is based is shifting from having a dominant personality to the ability to devise new ways of working. This is revolutionary because it suggests that leadership can no longer be about group domination. Leadership is a brief influence impact, an episode or act, not an ongoing state or role, a perfect example is the ability needed to make instant decisions in critical moments in games/matches. Strictly speaking there are no longer any leaders, only leadership. This view captures the fact that leadership is a fleeting state that can shift quickly from one person to another. It is an impact rather than a type of person or position. It must be so if it can be shown by outsiders.

Key Features of Leadership Reinvented

So in conclusion leadership consists where:

- It does not involve managing people to get things done.
- It comes to an end once those led get on board. It sells the tickets for the journey; management drives the bus to the destination.
- It is a discrete episode, a one-off act of influence, not an ongoing position of dominance.
- It is based on the promotion of a better way.
- It can be shown bottom-up as well as top-down.
- It can be shown by outsiders and between competing individuals or groups.


Tuesday, May 31, 2011

The "A" and "R" word's

Accountability and Responsibility...

Regardless of whether your an aspiring athlete, or already running a business, to be sucessful in any outcome you must have accountability and responsibility. Those two words are the most critical for short-term and long-term success

Responsibilty can be, and often, is shared particularly in the working and living environments we are placed in our society today. Most responsibilty can be handed to a dynamic team rather than individually depending on the field of work or environment we are in. Obviously every person still has personal responsibilties which they must fullfill, which in most cases say for an athlete is training, self managment, rest & recovery. Things like this are personal responsibilities and can't be gained or maintained without personal effort on the individuals part.

Accountability, on the other hand, CANNOT be shared. We often hear the term "shared responsibilty", simply being that 2 people working on the same task is usually better than 1 person. But there is no such thing as "shared accountability". To define accountability would be to say its the ultimate "responsibility"

You can delegate responsibility, but you can’t delegate accountability to anyone.
If someone gives you a job to do, you can get someone else to do it, but you are still accountable to produce the results. If the job isn’t done right the only person to blame is you, because even though you’ve delegated the responsibility, you are still accountable.

Accountability is like being pregnant, either you are or your not.

If you accept a leadership role or any role for that matter in a professional environment then you are accountable, not half accountable, or fractionally accountable, if you willingly accept a role which includes accountabilty - then you are accountable

The reality of this world is we are always accountable to someone, the sooner we realise our responsibilities the quicker we move forward and up in the world, and leave those who are not behind...

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

What is a "Champion" (continued)

The Question What Makes A Champion? Is Fascinating To Explore

Is it the pursuit of an ideal situation, a vision, a dream that excludes all distractions, the ability to overcome, to endure, to sacrifice, to stay focused? Is mental stamina as crucial or more crucial than natural attributes, skills and physical ability and do champions emerge in fields other than sport? Must champions be winners, set records that others must measure themselves by, or is it enough to be considered a champion by being outstanding in any chosen field of endeavour?
        There is no doubt in my mind that not everyone can be a champion in the universally accepted sense of the word. Society tends to confine the accolade of champion to only the most distinguished sports achievers, giving minimal acknowledgement to the broader scope of championship. It is easy to recognise physical achievement, championship of the mind is far more elusive.

Now even with the presence of all the necessary elements, would a champion basketballer become a champion cricketer or would a champion golfer become a champion  tennis player? Although all of these sports demand well-developed ball skills, they are not easily interchangeable at championship level because they require such specific and focused development. This can also be true of intellectual championship.

I believe that the human brain is hard wired from birth to accommadate human frailty as well as strength and our inherited family gene profiles that creates individual potential. However, what happens from birth to maturity to enable potential to develop to its optimum is greatly influenced by environment nurture.

Themes that are reinforced with regards to champions;

  • The essence of championship is having the determination to be the best we can possibly be. This takes commitment, effort, sacrifice and single-mindedness
  • A champion mindset is one that embraces a 'can do' attitude even when tackling the unknown or the previously unachievable or unchallenged
  • A champion acknowledges and accepts that 'If it is to be, then it is up to me'
 For us to either develop a championship culture in its broader sense or the essence of championship in ourselves it requires us to provide opportunity, appropriate education and training, in an ecouraging environment together with a healthy dose of nuture to enable ourselves and young to develop the confidence and self esteem necessary for a champion mindset - or to become a 'champion'

Few individuals achieve championship status without a support network of committed people

In an ideal world we would all embrace these elements, and realise they are not beyond the realm of possiblity for the majority of us to tap into. Both physical and intellectual championship require nurture and discipline, commitment, dedication and expert coaching. It will do us some good if we remove our willingness to dismiss or ridicule the vision and aspirations of others while offering no better thoughts, actions or solutions. Also the attachment we have to the belief that much virtue lies in being ordinary. What could possibly make being ordinary attractive?
      Is it the handy comfort zone we hide in and use as a shield, when we are not prepared to be challenged or to challenge ourselves? Is it a product of laziness or lack of self-esteem? Is it fear of not being accepted by others, the fear of risking failure or ridicule? The reality is we continue to live in society where people are so obsessed with fear and failure that we never take risks and push boundaries of all aspects of our lives be it at work, sport, in our relationships and we all fall back into our comfort zone, and cloud our fears and doubts with what we percieve are things to be important in our lives. I have learnt the being uncomfortable means your heading in the right direction, as soon as you become comfortable it means your not doing enough, not setting enough goals or being challenged, not taking enough risks because your fear of failure. This will only lead to dissapointment in aspects of your life as being comfortable is standing still in life, and if we stand still people will only walk past us and we get left behind. Remember fear can be a more powerful motivator than recognition. At the same time we should also recognise that it is human to seek and enjoy recognition. Recogniton is a powerful incentive and motivator, even for champions, perhaps especially for champions.

We all need to mature our attitude towards championship and excellence in the broader sense, beyond sport, and recognise that high achievers, whatever their excellence, expand the playing field and create opportunities for others. Wanting to build platforms for success is a very desirable mindset as even the smallest achievement can reach the first platform.
     Life could ideally be likened to a golf game, where we constantly play aginst our own handicap in a companionable social environment, versus say the solitude environment of a distance swimmer or marathon runner. Golf stands above the rest because it provides frequent sociable pauses after each shot and though we most often play in pairs or fours, we compete as individuals playing against your own handicap. Does this sound familiar in life? We move through our existence, having opportunities and challenges put infront of us, we sometimes have the benefit of outside influences to help with this but ultimately it comes down to what we do as an individual, and if we allow our fears and doubts to enable that hold of feeling we a somewhat restricted mentally and physically by our own personally-placed 'handicap' then we will will never move on to bigger and better challenges and rewards.

Of course championship has a broad defination, it has many things attached to its meaning. The next question that I for one am interested in is;

Is leadership a form of championship? Does effective leadership require a champion mindset? This is a subject itself which i will not attempt to explore here, except to say that preparation for sporting champions usually begins early in life as soon as natural abilities are recognised, whereas leaders often emerge later in life, drawing their strength, vision and motivation from experience, circumstance and events.
     While there are skills and attributes leaders and champions ofthen share, the primary focus of championship versus leadership is different, surely it has to be. Champions must focus on achieving their personal best to the exclusion of others whereas leaders must embody values that can be shared by others. Leaders must be capable of thinking collectively while acting individually and in the interests of the group. Leaders are recognised for their personal qualities and their ability to influence the performance of others.
      Both 'champions' and 'leaders' are achievers. Both are inspirational, capable of inspiring others to greatness

Monday, March 28, 2011

What is a "Champion"

We are all captivated by extraordinary success aren't we? I have always wanted to know what makes a champion, and I mean a "champion" in the broadest sense of the word. I see it as a fundamental aspect of the mind, the aspect of advancing anything in life. I do believe that everyone is a potential champion. So we should all be compelled to understand the factors that nurture and amplify extraordinary achievement.
I mean imagine the competitive advantage for those who possess such knowledge. Its ultimately the greatest knowledge and the more we understand our "dormant" potential to be champions, the better.

So championship can be best described as exploration of human achievement. But not achievement limited only to sports, rather human achievement across the board. The entire spectrum.

Of course, sport itself gives insights into the universals of "champions"

If you think about it, athletes might be considered neurotic. Coaches have often made that call. How else can you explain why a person, and without over exaggerating, would drive themselves to physical and in some cases mental collapse? How else can you explain the single-minded dedication of an Olympic Champion?

But the question has to be, is there really any difference between the so-called neurosis of the athlete and that of an artist, a scientist or for any individual who commits themselves to realise a dream? In all cases there is a sacrifice of the pleasures in life as normally appreciated.

What elusive spirit sustains champions through the agonising process necessary to achieve greatness, necessary to realise a dream? Answering this question we will have unlocked one of the mysteries of the mind. We will have discovered the element common to all great achievers. Ultimately I believe that what makes a champion is a champion "Mindset". The champion "mindset", not the skill itself, is the transferable commodity. If you have done something great in one field, you are far more likely to do so in another.

Talent will take you, where character can only sustain you
    (the skill itself)                 (champions mindset)

It is our mindsets that limit our expectations of ourselves and line our boundaries. It is our mindsets that determine whether we have the courage to challenge others and to expand our horizons.

Of course research has been done over the years to give us individuals clues of identifying and nurturing a champion mindset. Champions often have a mind that removes the thought to being only average, not always necessarily better than others, just not like the rest. Research says this quality frequently appears early in life in the form of a independence, rebellion or unconventional tastes. They are often familiar with adversity. They have had to 'fight' to get where they are and they continue to do so at some level, say by ignoring the body's warning signals, by denying themselves normal pleasures, or setting challenges that seem unreachable to the normal individual.

Don't be phased, as research has also proven that "champions" often fail, but the difference is that doesn't discourage them in the long haul for success. They learn how to convert 'upsets into set-ups' for something better.

Abraham Lincoln lost over and over again before stage-managing his sensational election as president

Many of the world's greatest scientists were at best average students. Things just didn't come easily. At the other extreme, child prodigies rarely rise to the top of their profession, and by definition they are the ones who found learning effortless.
Those who learn effortlessly in youth may well be at a disadvantage in tackling seemingly insurmountable problems. Struggling in the early learning process possibly acclimatises us to difficulties as being a matter of course.

Surprisingly, what has also emerged from research is the possible necessity of overcoming adversity as preparation for being a champion, even adversity self created by the individual, say by setting goals beyond reach of which it first appears.

A famous quote from New Zealander Sir Edmund Hillary , the first person to accomplish Mt Everest, in an interview was 'Go for something outrageous...challenge yourself' - create adversity. 'If you know you can do it, don't do it' said Hillary. 'You might as well go to the beach.'

We especially need to anticipate adversity and look at it as both a challenge and a learning experience. But this aspect is more profound than just engaging positive thinking. It is vital to a champion mindset and it requires a important shift in our views and perceptions with adversity.

Before any promotion in life, first you will be will be placed in fire and how you react to the heat and pressure will determine your success.

Champions have the courage to break rules. Obviously its crucial to know the foundations of the discipline, whether it is the mathematical equations or the appropriate routines for athletic training. But champions seem to differentiate themselves from others with equivalent training by having the courage to experiment with the rules and to invent new ways of doing things. Even in sports, it takes courage to break with a conventional training routine

Look at it through someone will all know 'Albert Einstein'. Einstein was not an especially brilliant student. His brilliance emerged later, not when he was learning the rules of physics but when he was questioning the conventional learning's of his discipline.
Again, research has shown that what makes a champion or lets say a high performance athlete like 'David Beckham' is they execute their skill unconsciously. Beckham has kicked upward of million footballs in his life, and the reality is his brain knows how to do this without needing to be told. His actions and decisions are often intuitive and rarely based on conscious logic. Now this is contrast to the process of learning itself, which is logical, and a contrasting struggle. Yet trusting intuition in society these days is condemned. Champions have a adept talent that when under pressure or threat they trust there intuition and don't resort to conservative strategies, never choosing to ignore the boldness that got them to where they are...

If we all can begin to challenge ourselves, never doubt our beliefs and never allow the emotions of success and failure to impact our capacity to learn then we then will start to achieve everything we want in life. Being uncomfortable and facing adversity means we are heading in the right direction, and without a doubt waiting on the other side afterwards is everything we dream for...

"I'm sure there is a champion mindset. I can perhaps describe it as a mindset that blocks out all else apart from the goal or task at hand"

John Eales (Most successful Captain in Australian Rugby History)

Monday, March 14, 2011


We all know the importance of goals. But how to think about our goals no one really knows. The most important thing you can know is:

Dont think of your goals, think from your goals.

What that means is, rather than thinking of your future dream home, think from your dream home. Imagine yourself actually living in that dream home, as if you were already there. What do you see? How does this make you feel this dream home? What are you saying to yourself about this home? Actually experience living there.

Thats the difference between simply thinking of your goal and thinking from it.

Does it work? In the book, Golf My Way, by Jack Nicklaus he revealed he used this technique to become one of the greatest golfers of all time. Before each shot, he created a mental movie of the entire golf shot in his head.

"I never hit a shot, even in practice, without having a very sharp, in-focus picture of it in my head. It's like a colour movie. first I "see" the ball where I want it to finish, nice and white sittiing up high on the bright green grass. Then the scene quickly changes and I "see" the ball going there: its path, trajectory, and shape, even its behaviour on landing. Then there's a sort of fade-out, and the next scene shows me making the kind of swing that will turn the previous images into reality."

Another great example was during the 1984 Olympics an American gymnast Mary Lou Retton stood at the end of the mat preparing for her final vault. The stakes couldn't be higher. She had to get a perfect score. A 10/10, or lose it all. Lose the dream, the gold, team pride, everything. She closed her eyes for a few seconds, then got into position, ran and nailed a perfect 10 off the horse mount to clinch the gold medal for herself and team USA. When asked by reporters afterwards what she was thinking when she closed her eyes before her run, she told them she saw herself doing every motion precisely, flawlessly, and achieving a perfect score.

There are times in life when everything IS on the line. It's either 100% or nothing. TRYing and striving doesn't get you anywhere, only achieving does. That's why it's critical to visualise your goals clearly.

One word you should remove from your vocabulary is the word TRY.  When you TRY to reach a goal, or a higher level of success in any thing in life then you are already capturing a thought in your mind already that you believe that you are below this line that he wish to achieve. Like anything, you must believe you can reach your goal but must never believe you dont deserve it or only capable of TRYing for it. You must believe and act like reaching your goal has already happened and that you deserve it and thats where you should be.

For example

If I was a 65% mark student at school, and I said to myself I want to TRY for 80% then there would be no doubt that I will remain a 65% mark student no matter how much work I put in because my belief is already that all I am only a 65% mark student. You can never better you belief. However if I decide I am a 80% student doing only 65% work and believe I should be a 80% student as this is a realistic goal I want to achieve, then I will find I will begin to find and attract the resources needed to achieve this as this is where I believe i should be.


Goal setting also has a process, its a principle and this is the reason it doesn't fail because principles can't fail...

-First you must Capture a thought, a goal you want to achieve (it must be realistic and attainable)

-You must then Believe it, if you dont believe it, you will accept you can't achieve it or not accept the success of your goal.

-Too believe it, you need to write it down, read it out loud to yourself, self-confess it

-SEE it, picture it already in your mind, what this goal makes you feel like, the colours, the smell, the taste

-And most importantly.....ACT like its already so, or happened! begin to act like you have achieved it already.

Your mind controls everything. This method of vivid visualising, will change your self-image to conform to these new images in your mind and make them become reality......

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Imagine > Will

"When the will comes into conflict with the imagination, the imagination invariably carries the day"

That simply means, when your will (your rational, logical self) comes in conflict with your imagination (your creative, right-brained self) your imagination always wins.

Imagination is key

Think of this! A child is told there are no monsters under the bed, but when the lights go off, the childlike imagination runs wild. Now a easy way to control this is to appeal to the child's imagination than to logic e.g Dont worry, the monsters in our house aren't the kind that hurt kids. We only let in the kind that protect kids...

We adults are no different, and the fears we imagine are no less threatening. We have all been held back by the fear of rejection, this is without a doubt. Its human nature to seek acceptence by our peers. We want to be loved. We crave it. And we hate to look like fools.
   Often we end up imagining the worst. We see them turning us down, not approving or refusing to do business with us. We end up "mind reading", projecting thoughts into other people's minds. I'm sure we have all thought these things in certain situations "I'll bet she doesn't like me." "He thinks I'm not as successful as I appear"
Why dont you imagine the best? Picture yourself succeeding. See people accepting you, liking you, wanting your talents and ideas. Imagine them saying Yes!
   Do the opposite to what we as people have always done and insert positive thoughts into their minds.
"They need my idea" "I am the person, and answer they've been looking for"

Believe it or not, people do actually read your mind. What you "think" is projected through the airwaves to the person you're meeting with. They pick it up subliminally. So if they're going to be reading your mind anyway, make sure that what they read is worth reading.
    Imagine the best case scenario. Project the best possible outcome.

“Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless.”

Another form of imagination which I have touched on a little in my "Everyone Manifests" blog is Visualisation or Directed imagination. It is the use of our imagination to implant particular images into our minds. Later, when we are in those situations we have imagined, we will tend to "act out" the images. The images could be those of a healthy body, or objects which we want to own, or sports (such as football of course) which we want to master, or psychological qualities that we wish to achieve.

This is a very effective way of transforming those restraining forces into driving forces, identifying those fears and doubts, eliminating them so they dont limit our potential as creators of our own destinies. Basically a form of training our brain, having a practice session in our thoughts and removing any negative impacts and doubts that enable us to peform to our potential rather than stepping into the "deep end" unprepared, scared of failure and unacceptance and restricting our movements as playmakers of our lives.

Believe me if you apply this to anything you truly want to achieve, then this will make sense. If you have no purpose, no direction and currently feeling like your standing still in life then begin to change, focus on a thought or a goal and work through it. Dont EVER, not chase your dreams...

Sunday, February 13, 2011


CONGRUENT -  to come together, agreeing, corresponding, harmonious

Sunlight focused through a magnifying glass can start a fire. But the conditions must be "just right." If the magnifying glass is held too high above the paper, the rays are diffused and dont generate enough heat to make fire.
    When you heat water to 212°, it begins to boil. If the temperature only reaches 211°, the water wont boil.
   An airplane has to reach a certain ground speed before it lifts off into the sky. Any speed less than this will not produce flight - only a crash at the end of the runway
   A satellite must reach "escape velocity" to break free of earth's gravitational pull. Then it falls into an effortless orbit where the breath of a baby is enough to propel it. But if the spacecraft doesnt reach escape velocity, it tumbles back down to earth.
   Some people expend enormous amounts of energy trying to become successful. They seem to do almost everything right e.g set goals, disciplined etc. they go through all the right motions. Still, success seems somehow to elude them. Yet others appear to go through the same motions and are literally awash in abundance of success. What is the difference?
     To manifest abundance ( read my manisfestation blog post to understand the importance of it), you need to achieve congruence - the condition where all parts of you are in alignment, to come together, correspond and be harmonious with each other. There are 3 important key parts you need to align!

The first is DESIRE: you have got to want it
The second is BELIEF: You've got to believe that you can be successful, and have a continued abundance of success
The third is SELF-ACCEPTANCE: You have got to believe your deserve to be successful, to your very core.

If one of these is out of alignment, your energy is diffused, ineffective. e.g You may want to become wealthy or a performer and even if you feel you deserve it and have the burning desire to make it a reality, but after several unsuccesful attempts, you form the belief that your're just not cut out for it. two out of three isn't enough. You're not congruent.

You're only firing on two engines, and it takes three to reach escape velocity. You end up falling back to earth. To produce enough heat, to reach boiling point, to attain the right ground speed, to achieve escape velocity, you need to be congruent.  EVERY part of you must "buy in" your heart, your mind and your spirit. It has to be all systems go otherwise you will always end up falling back down to earth.

Remember being congruent is to align your heart, mind and spirit or without sounding so spiritually spoken is to align these important elements DESIRE, BELIEF, SELF- ACCEPTANCE.

"Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I shall have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it, even if I may not have it at the beginning".

Begin to process this information deep down inside yourself, then succeeding will become a habit and not a rare occurance of achievement in your life, its not wrong or selfish to be successful every second, every minute of every day you live. People who believe it is are usually the people who dont realise or in some cases do, that the are moving backwards if not standing still in life. Be better than this...

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Commitment Is what it takes...

                                            Study this quote!

"Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans : that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe's couplets: 'Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.' "
                                 W. H. Murrey

Commitment is the spark that ignites the fire. Commitment is the key that starts the engine. When one draws a line in the sand and declares, "I am committed to do this, whatever it takes, for however long it takes." then an invisible signal is sent out, like a radio beacon, resonating with whatever resources necessary to complete the task.
    These resources begin to "materialise" as if by magic. Ideas begin to flow. Time slows down or speeds up to accommodate. People suddenly arrive as if summoned.
How does this happen?
     Have you ever played with a tuning fork? When you tap the fork, it begins to vibrate and hum, sending out sound vibrations of a specific pitch through the air around it. If you place another tuning fork nearby, collaborated to the same note, the second fork picks up on this vibration and slowly begins to hum and vibrate in harmony with the first fork. If the second tuning fork is not pitched to the same note, it does not vibrate.
     Now, we ALL send out silent and invisible signals. Most of the time, these signals are weak and unfocused. However when you reach a certain level of commitment, the intensity of your vibrations increases with more focus (focus being the most important catalyst), these signals become strong and a unavoidable magnet to the resources you need and the people around you. Your spirit, your soul, your life force or whatever you want to call it, begins to vibrate at a higher frequency. These vibrations, like invisible radio signals, are picked up unconsciously by everyone you meet. The message is subtle but clear....I am committed.

When your committed, your mind and body are energized by the passion of your purpose.

A commitment is a pledge, promise or resolution. It's the instant moment when you decide to give your full dedication and heart and soul to the fulfillment of something that you have thought of.
It makes you put yourself in a situation where you will never turn back. You are serious and have your vision only fixed on your purpose. You will move ahead in spite of doubts and risks because you have made an obligation to yourself to follow through and keep your word.

When these characters and traits are combined with self discipline, people succeed in getting rid of bad habits or attitudes, change direction, reach their goals and achieve their dreams. Dreams that can be simple as learning how to cook, being a body attack instructor, owning a home/house or being a millionaire.

Making a commitment...

1. Fix your purpose and then state your intention - write it down, say it out loud, believe it.

2. See it, visualise it - begin to power the mind with your purpose, and it will stimulate you to where you want to be, and become

3.  Give your full attention - Nothing is achieved without focus, make those signals you send out strong and unavoidable to other people

4. Discipline - Make progress despite doubts, fears and insecurities. Remember to push through these points in your cycle and that being uncomfortable is a sign of progress, as we are not standing still in comfort.

5. Persist - No goal is unachievable, our minds make it this.

6. Kings Throne - You have reached your goal, now is time to ensure you remain humble.

"It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through." - Zig Ziglar

Sunday, February 6, 2011

Changing your Reality

Do you ever talk to yourself?
     Many people have a positive internal voice that encourages them, especially when they've done something good. Its like their own personal cheerleader "Go for it" "You can do it" "Well done"
     Do you have a voice like that?
Some people have a voice that is more skeptical: "Who do you think you are" No chance of doing that" "What an idiot"

Sometimes, without being aware of it, this skeptical voice talks us out of our dreams. You have a great idea and immediately this voice fires off in our head, "Yeah, but..." followed by a string of reasons why it wont work.
     Successful people call this voice "Mr Yabut", because he is always trying to talk us out of something.
     Frankly, there are some things that we all ought to be talked out of. The "Yabuts" can serve a useful function, trying to protect us, to keep us out of trouble. But more often than not, Mr Yabut reacts too quickly to stifle our creativity. Instead of a voice of reason, it tries to to kill the thought before it has a chance to grow. If we let this reaction go unchecked it can cause unnecessary anxiety, muddled thinking, poor health, even ruin our lifes. If that is the case, you need to learn how to silence them and take control of your thought process.

The question I was asking was how?

Notice your positive, cheerleading internal voice right now. Where is it? Is it loud or is it soft? Imagine there is a sound dial that controls the volume of your internal dialogue. Turn up the volume of your positive voice. How does it make you feel? Try finding a volume level that motivates you, that encourages you to be your best.
    Notice your negative internal voice. Where is it? Whenever you notice it taking control, just turn the volume down. Notice how that makes you feel.

There is something else you can do to silence the "Yabut" for good. A very simple process. Find a rubber band and put this on your wrist. Everytime you catch yourself thinking a negative or counterproductive thought, you snap the rubber band. Yes, it causes pain. The pain causes a "pattern interrupt." Mentally, and perhaps vocally you say "OWW!" This technique is so simple and you will find you'll start to quickly, safely, and satisfyingly change your behaviour. It will amaze and delight you the results you can begin to see that weren't there before.

Remember your thoughts have the power to curse or bless. They can lead you to plenty of positive goals and success...or to limitation, scarcity and deprivation of your dreams and reality. The choice is ours but I always like to remember that we control our thinking. Our thinking controls our behaviour. Our behaviour controls our results.

To Fly As Fast As Thought
       To Be Anywhere There Is
               You Must First Begin By Knowing
                          That You Have Already Arrived

Monday, January 31, 2011

Live life above the Line

Whenever something doesn't go as expected, most of us tend to "blame" someone else for what went wrong. In doing so, we lose a tremendous learning opportunity.

      The World makes progress by learning from mistakes. When we blame someone, it gives that person power over the situation. e.g. "If John had done what he agreed to do, then this would never have happened." That may be true. However, this statement gives John the power over the situation, and we usually learn little from the experience.
    If we avoid the trap of laying blame, we sometimes tend to justify what happened. " I would have got that job done except I had to travel all night yesterday and was too tired to focus on the project today." This is just another form of blame. Instead of blaming a person, we blame the circumstances. Again, no matter how reasonable the justification, we lose an opportunity to optimally learn from the situation.

  If we get beyond blaming and justifying, there is another level of sub-optimal learning. That is shame-beating yourself up; "i did the dumbest thing!" Instead of blaming another person or the circumstance, we blame ourselves. This too reduces the opportunity for learning.

Where, then, is the optimal place to view life experiences? From the point of personal responsibility.....from above the line



Recently I have had things happen in my life where I chose to focus on blaming people for the decisions they made, this didn't enable me to learn the reasons why those disappointments were happening to me and harness my energy to keeping my 'Life above the Line' so I continued to allow the same outcome to happen to other processes in my life. I focused on "how can this person do that to me", or "how can they make those decisions".
      I have now realised, and following on from my recent posts, that the way I perceived myself as a person, as a footballer, as a partner and my inner attitude towards myself and these specific people only generated them to apply the same attitudes towards myself. Its as simple as saying "mistrust someone inside and that will infect your aura to point where people will mistrust you, and you won't even know your sending those signals".  Attitudes are magnets, and you attract the same attitudes back. Likewise, your inner attitudes attract the same people for your relationships as friends and partners. If you begin these at a time where your living life "below the line" then its inevitably that these relationships end because learning is not possible throughout the relationships.
      If we are not learning then excuses for blame are always found, either blaming someone else, blaming circumstances, or blaming yourself. Fortunately we all have the ability in life to learn from our experiences and to enable us to search out where there are opportunities to learn, and avoid placing blame. But deciding to "live life above the line" is needed before. Tell yourself you will.  

Good decisions come from experience, and experience comes from bad decisions

Granted, we may not be responsible for everything that happens. However, the more we are willing to view the world from this vantage point, the more the reins to life are in our hands. By operating "above the line," each of us has optimal control, direction, and command over our existance. From this perspective, "free will" surfaces in each individual action, allowing us to learn as much as possible from each situation.

     Life is a succession of choices. Embrace each outcome from "above the line". As much as possible is learned from each situation. As a result, the next choice is more likely to be wiser.

Choose to look at everything from Above the Line

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Everyone Manifests


- to show plainly; to make to appear distinctly, -- usually to the mind; to put beyond question or doubt; to display; to exhibit

Look around you, everything you see began as a thought in someone's mind, as I exampled previously in my 'introduction' blog, the chair you sit on, the bed you sleep in, the house you live in. The car you drive. The clothes you wear. the television you watch. First, a thought. Then, a thing brought forward out of nothing. There it is. Everything begins as a thought.
    Now the verb for turning thoughts into things is to manifest. The idea of manifesting something is to metaphorically speaking reach your hand through a invisible curtain separating the tangible world or reality from the world of imagination and pull your desired object into existence.

First, you think it, then you manifest it. You "materialise" it. You cause it to appear.
    Everyone manifests. Some people manifest in abundance. Others lack manifest. The question you should ask yourself if you don't have what you want is "How did i manifest this?" examine your thoughts.

You are the fruit of the thoughts you have planted and nourished/grown in your mind. If you want better harvest in your mind you must plant better thoughts. Simply put a apple seed will not produce a peach tree, poor thoughts will not produce quality.
   Like a acorn becomes a oak tree, the thoughts in your mind become your reality.

Thoughts are things and every thought has a consequence. No thought lives in your brain unattached and each thought is a pebble dropped into your life pond. Drop a pebble in a pond and you will get ripples, these ripples are real, in essence its the minds own "butterfly effect". Remember creating tiny movements in your thoughts and actions and getting this as close to perfect as possible in your first 15% of any process and then it will be impossible for that outcome not to be successful The more intense the thought, the more powerful the outcome. An angry thought gets picked up like a radio wave, people can sense it. Your whole aura around becomes infected. We have to disperse such thoughts.

Instead, think intensely positive thoughts. Grow enthusiastic images, don't underestimate the power of visualisation. For someone like me my manifestation would be of visualisation with football.     

-Visualisation is a practice by which you can deliberately change the way you feel, your level of autonomic arousal, and your behaviour.

-This is a creative visualisation for the purposes of relaxation. However, visualisation can also be used to improve performance, reduce fears and phobias

For someone else it could be manifesting that idea or creation that yields wealth, being an entrepreneur of there on minds. Now speak only wonderful words to yourself, constantly. This will colour the view of the world from your eyes and you will begin to attract the resources needed to manifest the world you desire.

Saturday, January 29, 2011


Can you tell me what a principle is?

Im sure not many people know what the defination of a principle is, although after finding out exactly what it means myself I can safely assume people who know what a principles defination means, are without a doubt the most succesful people in life.

So then..

Principles are simple yet powerful models that help us understand how the world works. Principles generate the same result each and every time, no matter where, when, or who uses them. Principles work when you work them. Gravity is a principle. Think about gravity and ask yourself when you wake up in the morning, do you have to question which way your foot will go when you get out of bed? It goes down, never up. Likewise, two times two is four. It never equals five. Principles don't wear out, rust out, or give out. They last forever. They are timeless and tireless. Principles cannot be overused. Life is the process of discovering principles, of discovering what works. If you want to make rapid progress don't fight against principles - only flow with them

"Everyone thinks that the principal thing to the tree is the fruit, but in point of fact the principal thing to it is the seed"      

Freidrich Wilhelm Nietzsche (1844-1900)

The Butterfly Effect

I happened to stumble across a book recently which opened my eyes to a completely different way about approaching my life. I was willing to take that first step to changing it because I was fortunate enough to have the right people around me to realise what I was doing previously was not working, the people I surrounded myself with, the way I treated people, my inner attitude and beliefs towards myself and others was only keeping me on a path where it would always end destructively because life is only a process of cycles, and every cycle we are tested again, again and again. When you come to the end of the process of a cycle of which can be 20 years, 5 years or even 5mins you either will have succeeded or failed, either way this cycle will begin again and you will repeat this process with your next cycle or goal in life and have the chance to succeed next time. The reality is if you are continually failing these tests throughout each of these cycles in your life then it is time to change...because we are continually tested in everyday life but how many chances we have with each opportunity is never known.
This comes back to "If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got"

Let me tell you now about a page I read regarding "the butterfly effect" and the process and how it was applied to everyday life.

Five decades ago Edward Lorenz a research meteorologist at MIT created a computer program designed to model the weather. Lorenz had reduced weather into a series of formulas that behaved in recognizable weather patterns.
    In 1961 on a winter day, Lorenz wanted to shortcut a weather printout by starting midway through. To give the machine the initial conditions, he typed the numbers straight from the earlier printout
    Something unexpected happened. What he notices was his simulated weather pattern had diverged dramatically from the previous printout. At first he thought his computer malfunctioned. Then it suddenly hit him. There was no computer malfunction. The answer was the numbers he had put into the computer. In the original programming he had used six decimal places: . 506127. In the second run he had rounded off the numbers to .506. He assumed the difference, one part of a thousand, would have no real impact. He was wrong. This slight change had made a huge difference. This tiny change in input had quickly created an overwhelmingly different output!
   The formal name for this phenomenon is "sensitive dependence on initial conditions". Its informal and more popular name is the "Butterfly Effect"
   Simply stated, it means that the tiny changes brought about by a butterfly moving its wings in San Francisco have the power to transform the weather conditions in Shanghai
   Along with Lorenz, W. Edwards Deming came up with a very similar conclusion. Deming an American statistician who established the Total Quality Movement, first in Japan, then in the rest of the world and historically so important he was called one of the "nine hidden turning points in history" (along with the birth control pill and the Apostle Paul)
   Deming pointed out that in every process there is a beginning and an end. When you focus on the first 15% of that process and get it correct (its initial conditions), you ensure at least 85% of your desired outcome. By focusing on the 15% of anything, the remaining 85% will effortlessly follow

I will type that again...

When you focus on the first 15% of that process and get it correct (its initial conditions), you ensure at least 85% of your desired outcome. By focusing on the 15% of anything, the remaining 85% will effortlessly follow

Think about that and apply it to the next process/goal you want to achieve. Create tiny movements in your thoughts and actions and get this as close to perfect as possible in your first 15% of your process and then it will be impossible that the outcome is not successful, do this every minute and you will get to where you want to go quicker than you can imagine.  

I suppose just reading things like this isnt always enough to convince yourself, and sometimes you need to apply it to situations in your life. For example for me I applied it to what matters the most to me. When Im playing football, if I have a ball coming in the air at me quickly and its important that I control this ball perfectly in order to give myself the best chance to score, then first of all I need to focus on making eye contact with the ball followed by getting my body in line with the flight of ball then telling myself to relax and presenting the surface of which to control the ball (these are the principles of controlling a football, and I will explain what a principle is in my next blog) because my brain knows that when I make these tiny movements in my thoughts and actions that the only outcome is I control this ball perfectly allowing the next 85% percent of my desired outcome to effortlessly flow whether this is to make a pass, cross or shoot.

Friday, January 28, 2011


Millionaire Climb - Transforming your Life

Imagine this:

You just receive a phone call, from the estate of a long lost relative. You have just inherited a millions pounds/dollars in cash...but of course there is a catch. This money is in a safety deposit box in a Swiss bank. The key to this box is in a gold container at the summit of Mount McKinley in Alaska (20,335 feet), the tallest mountain in North America.

The instructions are obviously very clear - you must climb the mountain (no helicopters) and retrieve the key yourself. If you do this within 12 months the money is yours. If not, you lose the money forever.

Now let that sink in for a minute people. Would you do it? Could you do it?

Mount McKinley is not an impossible climb. Thousands of climbers have made it to the summit. But of course like any process that's going to be successful in life it requires some serious planning, preparation, and training.

-You'll still need mentors who will guide you along your path
-You'll need to follow a training regimen 
-You'll need to be disciplined enough to follow through

If you feel that things in your life are too difficult, or you don't deserve better or feeling worthy of wealth then you need to remember this, right it down and put this on your wall...

"If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got"

If you think about how life works in the process of cycles e.g Life - Death - Life, then the same would apply to your thoughts and attitudes. For example, what type of person you are attracts the same type of people back. How you treat people will inevitably always be the way your treated back. Mistrust people and they will mistrust you whether you know it or not, on the other hand be honest and have integrity with people and you will receive the same back.
 Now lets apply that to thinking positive and positive things will happen to you, think and act like a millionaire, walk and talk like a millionaire then you will only attract things around you to aid with the process of this cycle of becoming a millionaire, we are all creators of our own destiny's as everything you see in life was created by the power of thought. The chair you sit on, the bed you sleep in, the computer you are reading this from all started from a thought in someones mind.
                      ....Never underestimate the power of your thoughts....
                           "As a man believes in his heart, so he is"