Monday, January 31, 2011

Live life above the Line

Whenever something doesn't go as expected, most of us tend to "blame" someone else for what went wrong. In doing so, we lose a tremendous learning opportunity.

      The World makes progress by learning from mistakes. When we blame someone, it gives that person power over the situation. e.g. "If John had done what he agreed to do, then this would never have happened." That may be true. However, this statement gives John the power over the situation, and we usually learn little from the experience.
    If we avoid the trap of laying blame, we sometimes tend to justify what happened. " I would have got that job done except I had to travel all night yesterday and was too tired to focus on the project today." This is just another form of blame. Instead of blaming a person, we blame the circumstances. Again, no matter how reasonable the justification, we lose an opportunity to optimally learn from the situation.

  If we get beyond blaming and justifying, there is another level of sub-optimal learning. That is shame-beating yourself up; "i did the dumbest thing!" Instead of blaming another person or the circumstance, we blame ourselves. This too reduces the opportunity for learning.

Where, then, is the optimal place to view life experiences? From the point of personal responsibility.....from above the line



Recently I have had things happen in my life where I chose to focus on blaming people for the decisions they made, this didn't enable me to learn the reasons why those disappointments were happening to me and harness my energy to keeping my 'Life above the Line' so I continued to allow the same outcome to happen to other processes in my life. I focused on "how can this person do that to me", or "how can they make those decisions".
      I have now realised, and following on from my recent posts, that the way I perceived myself as a person, as a footballer, as a partner and my inner attitude towards myself and these specific people only generated them to apply the same attitudes towards myself. Its as simple as saying "mistrust someone inside and that will infect your aura to point where people will mistrust you, and you won't even know your sending those signals".  Attitudes are magnets, and you attract the same attitudes back. Likewise, your inner attitudes attract the same people for your relationships as friends and partners. If you begin these at a time where your living life "below the line" then its inevitably that these relationships end because learning is not possible throughout the relationships.
      If we are not learning then excuses for blame are always found, either blaming someone else, blaming circumstances, or blaming yourself. Fortunately we all have the ability in life to learn from our experiences and to enable us to search out where there are opportunities to learn, and avoid placing blame. But deciding to "live life above the line" is needed before. Tell yourself you will.  

Good decisions come from experience, and experience comes from bad decisions

Granted, we may not be responsible for everything that happens. However, the more we are willing to view the world from this vantage point, the more the reins to life are in our hands. By operating "above the line," each of us has optimal control, direction, and command over our existance. From this perspective, "free will" surfaces in each individual action, allowing us to learn as much as possible from each situation.

     Life is a succession of choices. Embrace each outcome from "above the line". As much as possible is learned from each situation. As a result, the next choice is more likely to be wiser.

Choose to look at everything from Above the Line

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Everyone Manifests


- to show plainly; to make to appear distinctly, -- usually to the mind; to put beyond question or doubt; to display; to exhibit

Look around you, everything you see began as a thought in someone's mind, as I exampled previously in my 'introduction' blog, the chair you sit on, the bed you sleep in, the house you live in. The car you drive. The clothes you wear. the television you watch. First, a thought. Then, a thing brought forward out of nothing. There it is. Everything begins as a thought.
    Now the verb for turning thoughts into things is to manifest. The idea of manifesting something is to metaphorically speaking reach your hand through a invisible curtain separating the tangible world or reality from the world of imagination and pull your desired object into existence.

First, you think it, then you manifest it. You "materialise" it. You cause it to appear.
    Everyone manifests. Some people manifest in abundance. Others lack manifest. The question you should ask yourself if you don't have what you want is "How did i manifest this?" examine your thoughts.

You are the fruit of the thoughts you have planted and nourished/grown in your mind. If you want better harvest in your mind you must plant better thoughts. Simply put a apple seed will not produce a peach tree, poor thoughts will not produce quality.
   Like a acorn becomes a oak tree, the thoughts in your mind become your reality.

Thoughts are things and every thought has a consequence. No thought lives in your brain unattached and each thought is a pebble dropped into your life pond. Drop a pebble in a pond and you will get ripples, these ripples are real, in essence its the minds own "butterfly effect". Remember creating tiny movements in your thoughts and actions and getting this as close to perfect as possible in your first 15% of any process and then it will be impossible for that outcome not to be successful The more intense the thought, the more powerful the outcome. An angry thought gets picked up like a radio wave, people can sense it. Your whole aura around becomes infected. We have to disperse such thoughts.

Instead, think intensely positive thoughts. Grow enthusiastic images, don't underestimate the power of visualisation. For someone like me my manifestation would be of visualisation with football.     

-Visualisation is a practice by which you can deliberately change the way you feel, your level of autonomic arousal, and your behaviour.

-This is a creative visualisation for the purposes of relaxation. However, visualisation can also be used to improve performance, reduce fears and phobias

For someone else it could be manifesting that idea or creation that yields wealth, being an entrepreneur of there on minds. Now speak only wonderful words to yourself, constantly. This will colour the view of the world from your eyes and you will begin to attract the resources needed to manifest the world you desire.

Saturday, January 29, 2011


Can you tell me what a principle is?

Im sure not many people know what the defination of a principle is, although after finding out exactly what it means myself I can safely assume people who know what a principles defination means, are without a doubt the most succesful people in life.

So then..

Principles are simple yet powerful models that help us understand how the world works. Principles generate the same result each and every time, no matter where, when, or who uses them. Principles work when you work them. Gravity is a principle. Think about gravity and ask yourself when you wake up in the morning, do you have to question which way your foot will go when you get out of bed? It goes down, never up. Likewise, two times two is four. It never equals five. Principles don't wear out, rust out, or give out. They last forever. They are timeless and tireless. Principles cannot be overused. Life is the process of discovering principles, of discovering what works. If you want to make rapid progress don't fight against principles - only flow with them

"Everyone thinks that the principal thing to the tree is the fruit, but in point of fact the principal thing to it is the seed"      

Freidrich Wilhelm Nietzsche (1844-1900)

The Butterfly Effect

I happened to stumble across a book recently which opened my eyes to a completely different way about approaching my life. I was willing to take that first step to changing it because I was fortunate enough to have the right people around me to realise what I was doing previously was not working, the people I surrounded myself with, the way I treated people, my inner attitude and beliefs towards myself and others was only keeping me on a path where it would always end destructively because life is only a process of cycles, and every cycle we are tested again, again and again. When you come to the end of the process of a cycle of which can be 20 years, 5 years or even 5mins you either will have succeeded or failed, either way this cycle will begin again and you will repeat this process with your next cycle or goal in life and have the chance to succeed next time. The reality is if you are continually failing these tests throughout each of these cycles in your life then it is time to change...because we are continually tested in everyday life but how many chances we have with each opportunity is never known.
This comes back to "If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got"

Let me tell you now about a page I read regarding "the butterfly effect" and the process and how it was applied to everyday life.

Five decades ago Edward Lorenz a research meteorologist at MIT created a computer program designed to model the weather. Lorenz had reduced weather into a series of formulas that behaved in recognizable weather patterns.
    In 1961 on a winter day, Lorenz wanted to shortcut a weather printout by starting midway through. To give the machine the initial conditions, he typed the numbers straight from the earlier printout
    Something unexpected happened. What he notices was his simulated weather pattern had diverged dramatically from the previous printout. At first he thought his computer malfunctioned. Then it suddenly hit him. There was no computer malfunction. The answer was the numbers he had put into the computer. In the original programming he had used six decimal places: . 506127. In the second run he had rounded off the numbers to .506. He assumed the difference, one part of a thousand, would have no real impact. He was wrong. This slight change had made a huge difference. This tiny change in input had quickly created an overwhelmingly different output!
   The formal name for this phenomenon is "sensitive dependence on initial conditions". Its informal and more popular name is the "Butterfly Effect"
   Simply stated, it means that the tiny changes brought about by a butterfly moving its wings in San Francisco have the power to transform the weather conditions in Shanghai
   Along with Lorenz, W. Edwards Deming came up with a very similar conclusion. Deming an American statistician who established the Total Quality Movement, first in Japan, then in the rest of the world and historically so important he was called one of the "nine hidden turning points in history" (along with the birth control pill and the Apostle Paul)
   Deming pointed out that in every process there is a beginning and an end. When you focus on the first 15% of that process and get it correct (its initial conditions), you ensure at least 85% of your desired outcome. By focusing on the 15% of anything, the remaining 85% will effortlessly follow

I will type that again...

When you focus on the first 15% of that process and get it correct (its initial conditions), you ensure at least 85% of your desired outcome. By focusing on the 15% of anything, the remaining 85% will effortlessly follow

Think about that and apply it to the next process/goal you want to achieve. Create tiny movements in your thoughts and actions and get this as close to perfect as possible in your first 15% of your process and then it will be impossible that the outcome is not successful, do this every minute and you will get to where you want to go quicker than you can imagine.  

I suppose just reading things like this isnt always enough to convince yourself, and sometimes you need to apply it to situations in your life. For example for me I applied it to what matters the most to me. When Im playing football, if I have a ball coming in the air at me quickly and its important that I control this ball perfectly in order to give myself the best chance to score, then first of all I need to focus on making eye contact with the ball followed by getting my body in line with the flight of ball then telling myself to relax and presenting the surface of which to control the ball (these are the principles of controlling a football, and I will explain what a principle is in my next blog) because my brain knows that when I make these tiny movements in my thoughts and actions that the only outcome is I control this ball perfectly allowing the next 85% percent of my desired outcome to effortlessly flow whether this is to make a pass, cross or shoot.

Friday, January 28, 2011


Millionaire Climb - Transforming your Life

Imagine this:

You just receive a phone call, from the estate of a long lost relative. You have just inherited a millions pounds/dollars in cash...but of course there is a catch. This money is in a safety deposit box in a Swiss bank. The key to this box is in a gold container at the summit of Mount McKinley in Alaska (20,335 feet), the tallest mountain in North America.

The instructions are obviously very clear - you must climb the mountain (no helicopters) and retrieve the key yourself. If you do this within 12 months the money is yours. If not, you lose the money forever.

Now let that sink in for a minute people. Would you do it? Could you do it?

Mount McKinley is not an impossible climb. Thousands of climbers have made it to the summit. But of course like any process that's going to be successful in life it requires some serious planning, preparation, and training.

-You'll still need mentors who will guide you along your path
-You'll need to follow a training regimen 
-You'll need to be disciplined enough to follow through

If you feel that things in your life are too difficult, or you don't deserve better or feeling worthy of wealth then you need to remember this, right it down and put this on your wall...

"If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got"

If you think about how life works in the process of cycles e.g Life - Death - Life, then the same would apply to your thoughts and attitudes. For example, what type of person you are attracts the same type of people back. How you treat people will inevitably always be the way your treated back. Mistrust people and they will mistrust you whether you know it or not, on the other hand be honest and have integrity with people and you will receive the same back.
 Now lets apply that to thinking positive and positive things will happen to you, think and act like a millionaire, walk and talk like a millionaire then you will only attract things around you to aid with the process of this cycle of becoming a millionaire, we are all creators of our own destiny's as everything you see in life was created by the power of thought. The chair you sit on, the bed you sleep in, the computer you are reading this from all started from a thought in someones mind.
                      ....Never underestimate the power of your thoughts....
                           "As a man believes in his heart, so he is"